It seems that as we age people tend to talk at us not to us. Which is why I devoted a whole chapter to it in my most recent book “The Hardest Conversation”.
Here is some of what was covered……
Is this conversation or an education?
So often when we start to talk to parents about their future we talk at them, we tell them what needs to be done, and how it needs to be done. We often, especially if someone else is in the room, speak as though they are not in the conversation. We speak to them as if in a conversation about their options not as though you are educating them on what needs to be done. The conversation lets them come to their own conclusions, okay with few subtle nudges, but nonetheless ones they feel they have determined on their own.