Over coming the fear of loneliness

You Are Only As Alone As You Let Yourself Be.

Everyone feels lonely from time to time. It’s a normal part of the human experience. But some people are more vulnerable to slipping from loneliness into depression. Or there can be hard times in your life when feeling lonely is only one step away from isolation and depression.

The current state of health through the world has many of us isolated and not by choice.  This type of enforced isolation can increase the feeling of loneliness as we now feel we are losing control of our personal life.  

People who are at increased risk of depression typically feel isolated and lonely; they have low self-esteem that can easily tip into more extreme feelings of self-blame and guilt, even self-disgust. And these negative thought patterns can lead to full-blown depression. The current situation exasperates those feelings. If you’re having bad feelings about yourself, feeling lonely and worthless, here are some things you can do to head off the risk of depression.

Start with Mindfulness

Mindfulness helps you deal with what is in front of you right now. Developing a mindfulness practice can help you accept your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Simply by observing what is happening around you, focusing on what you can see, hear, feel, smell, and taste will help you break out of your negative thought patterns.

Next Boost Your Social Support Network

Isolation increases the tendency to self-blame. Connection and social contact can go a long way to helping you alleviate your loneliness and get a different perspective on the world. Don’t let the current requriement for social distancing stop you from make a phone, sending a text, post on Facebook.

Reach out to friends, colleagues, and family to increase the positive connections in your life.

If you are not up to sharing your concerns with friends find a group on facbook join.  There many, many support groups where if you need to you can remain anonymous.  

Practice Self-compassion

People who are caught up in feelings of negative self-worth are often extremely hard on themselves. Allow yourself a little imperfection. Be kind and change that internal monologue to one less punitive.

Change Your Self-talk

Have a look at your internal soundtrack. Are you full of self-recrimination? Do you magnify your flaws and faults? Now, would you talk to a friend like that? Rewrite that script into something more positive and self-affirming. If that is too hard to think about right now, try some of the books, apps, or websites that offer affirmations.

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