If you are frustrated that your life is not going how you had planned or that nothing seems to be happening as you want, stop and ask yourself this question. Who has the power to change your life? Alice Walker’s words are very fitting for many of us who feel powerless to change our lives. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
The only person who can change your life, make you happy, and help you realize all your goals is you. Period. No one else can do those things for you, and the sooner you realize this truth, the sooner you can start reclaiming the power that is inside of you and living the life you have always wanted.
Take Back Your Power
There are things you likely do regularly that are allowing others to have power or control over you. Giving your power away to others outside you is handing over the reins of your life and abdicating your responsibility and desire to others. So, how do you dig deep inside and find the power you have had all along? Here are a few ways you can do just that.
1. Say “no” when you need to. When you say “yes” all the time, agreeing to help other people, place their needs before yours, and agree with their opinions and ideas, you are placing yourself lower on your priority list. When you are constantly trying to please other people, you please your own needs on hold, which can result in harm to your health and well-being. Learning to say “no” when needed reclaims your right to your purpose and happiness.
2. Let them save themselves. There may be others in your life who are struggling or looking to you for help and support because their life is unhappy. Just like no one else can make you happy, you are never going to make them happy, either. The only person that can save someone is themselves. It is not your job to fix them; it is theirs. Allow that person to embrace their own personal power and find their path to happiness.
3. Stop blaming. Holding onto grudges and blaming others in your life for whatever pain or wrong you have suffered is only harming you. It is not making the other person feel bad or changing the situation. Instead of worrying about who hurt you or how they wronged you, focus on what you learned from the situation, and apply that learning to your life now. Blaming and holding grudges weakens your power because you are allowing others to have control over your emotions. Stop blaming and start healing.
4. Have faith in yourself. You have more power within you than you give yourself credit for. You can be more resilient than you think you can, and you need to have faith in yourself as the strong, powerful person that you are. Trusting yourself now will allow you to embrace your power as you reclaim it and use it to help you reach your goals.
5. Reclaim what is yours. Regaining your personal power means doing the things you love, placing yourself at the top of your priority list, and seeing yourself for the strong, smart, flawed, beautiful, imperfect person that you are. Learning to love yourself, accept all the good and bad about yourself, and embracing the control you have over your destiny is the ultimate way you find that power within yourself and learn to harness it.
Keep it to yourself. Demonstrate, don't tell.
Take back your power however you can and wherever in life you have been giving it away. Make a promise to yourself that you will never again relinquish it to others.