As we are aging we tend to stress more about how our faces look even though we were critical of everything about ourselves growing up. Getting older has us looking closer at our face in the mirror. We check for more wrinkles and age spots. Some us for frown lines and the wrinkles on the chin, the lips, on and on and on. The question is WHY? There is not much we can or even should do about each and every one of them. We grew into them, we have lived lives that led to them. What we need to do is learn to accept that each of them has taught us something. And if we are really smart we share the best of what those lines have had us learn. For example, if you are the recipient of laugh lines then what a great thing to pass on to your children and grandchildren. Laugh with them. What a lot of people don’t know is that many people don’t know how to laugh. Kids of the 40’s and 50’s grew up with the rule of “children should be seen and not heard” and “silence is golden”.
So if you are fortunate enough to have grown up with the freedom to laugh and giggle out loud, give your kids and grandkids permission to do so by laughing with them. You can also give them cause to laugh, which is even a better gift.
Perhaps you see frown lines. Well, you came by them honestly and now that you have worked your way through the life that caused them. What can you do with this particular attribute and not see it negatively? Remind yourself to not get upset up about things you can do nothing about. Yes, the lines are one, but worrying about small or for that big things will not help. By keeping that continual frown you could be causing it to remain long after it is gone, simply by showing to the world.
People like happy and friendly faces and in case you have forgotten, how you look shows up in your voice. There was old training program where they taught sales people about phone tactics. It was putting a mirror in front of themselves when they made the call and told them to smile because you will sound more pleasant to the person on the other end of the call. You should try it, it works! You simply can’t sound unhappy when we are smiling The same in true in life, people like to be around happy people. As we get older engaging with others is important.
So if you take nothing else away from this post remember these three things
1. Smile and the world smiles with you, frown and you frown alone. It is really “cry”, but we’ll leave tears for another time.
2. Laugh like no one is watching and see your own mood improve. It was “dance” but I am taking literary license here.
3. Share the results of every line, wrinkle, mark and age spot, someone, maybe your grandkids would love to hear the story behind each and everyone. Good or bad, turn them into an adventure or secret you’ve kept just for them. A word to the wise- don’t be morbid, every event in life has something good in it. It is the good you share and when you do you will find that you are making your own world a little brighter as well.