Which bridge are you about to cross?

Some bridges create fear, but fear of what?

No matter what your current age you will have bridges to cross. Just getting to the age you are now you will have crossed many already. The difference it seems to be as you get older some of the new bridges bring fear and some pain.

 

Some bridges can be scary.

These can be overcome if you know you approaching them, they are more difficult when they just suddenly appear.

Fear is something that grows within you.  Sure you may always have been afraid of the dark but, that fear doesn’t appear until it is dark. You are not afraid of it in the day time, you were not afraid of it yesterday in the bright sunlight. No, you became afraid when that sunlight turned to night. Many people that are afraid of the dark won’t have the same fear on a starlit night.

The most common fear is fear of the unknown Click To Tweet and for some reason, that fear increases as you age.

The most common Fear is of the unknown and for some reason, that fear increases as you age.

So the question is what can you do about it?  Well, you can start with identifying some of your fears and creating a list of them.

 

They of which can be as simple as
asking a stranger a question;
making small talk with a social gathering;
or driving to an unfamiliar location

 

Next look at that list and prioritize them 0 being the least fearful or least anxious for you and 10 being the most fearful.

The fear list

Then starting with the situation that causes the least anxiety determine how you can face that fear head on, in your own way and at your own chosen time.  Let’s say making small talk has you a little anxious, and you have a social gathering coming up.

If you are aware of the purpose of the gather perhaps you could find one or two topics related to it that you find interesting.  Next, you can make a list of things you could ask about on those topics.  Then just before the gathering review the list so that they are fresh in your mind.  Then when you meet someone you can ask one of those questions.   By doing this you take control of not only your fears but also the situation. Most people are happy to answer (nonpersonal) questions on topics of interest.  Even if they don’t know the answer the question will ‘break the ice’ as they say and open up some type of dialogue.  By doing this you then don’t have to be fearful of someone engaging you and being fearful of how to respond.

Using the same process work through the rest of your concerns and develop your way own way of crossing that bridge when it comes.

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