Retirement – A dream come true, or a scary movie!

Coming Soon – The Retirement

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Retirement, like getting married or raising a child, didn’t come with any instructions or a how to book.  We were just expected to know what to do.  Well if you’ve worked the largest majority of your life retirement was always a dream, and dreams are not reality.  It doesn’t matter if you retired with or without money the same types of issues arise.

What are you going to do with possibly 30 years of life in retirement?

No more turning or off the alarm

I can still recall listening to colleagues dreaming of retirement.  They would talk about how great it was going to be not having to get up early in the morning and fight the traffic to get to work.  How they would be able to play golf and not have to worry about getting a Tee time.  Others talked about traveling whenever they wanted and not having to juggle around peak travel times or school holidays.

Reality

Dream one — Not having to wake up early:

Next morning you wake up early, don’t want to miss a minute of life left, or was it simply because of your internal alarm clock, geared for work over the last few decades, went off?

Well, you’re awake, so let’s get up and at it.

Isn’t it great not to have rush out the door to catch a bus or get in the car and face the traffic or another day on the job?

no more catching a crowded train.

Okay, slow down, let’s think about this over coffee.

Okay, ready to sit and have a leisurely coffee, without having to watch clock?  Now, where’s my coffee partner?

Oh, that’s rights they are still working, long gone out the door.  You forgot that it is rare for both parties to retire on the same day or at the same time.

Now it’s time to find new coffee partners.  Most of us have coffee shops near by, why not go get a coffee and strike up a  conversation with someone at the next table.  Consider it like the first day at a new job.  You had to make new friends and meet new people, well retirement is no different.  So get up, get out and say hi to someone new.

To be cont’d……

Coming Soon – The Retirement Training – Long over due!

It’s your attitude that will get you every time, awareness may be next

You hear me often write about how your attitude can help or hurt you as you get older.  Awareness is one of the keys to making it work for you not against you.

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This short video – part of the larger course on Conscious Aging-  provides more information

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Are you afraid of retirement? Maybe you should be,

because what are you going to do with possibly 25 or 30 years of nonworking life left to live.   How will you spend your days, evenings and weekend when every is a HOLIDAY?

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Life and living are not mutually exclusive, both require your interaction.

Having that much time on your hands means there are no real holidays.  What are long weekends, who needs them?  Not you!

Sure there will be important dates to look forward to, but unless you have a huge family, filled with relatives, your own kids, lots of grandkids or even great grandkids, you are pretty much on your own.  Yes there are provincial, state, and federal holidays observed as well religious holidays, but these no longer have the significance they had while you were working.  You were just happy to have the day off, the good news is that now you can appreciate them for their true meaning.  That being said even the 30+ holidays in some places are going to leave you with a lot of time to fill.

Too much time, too little to do to fill it?

So what are you going to do?  What will get you up in the morning?  What will keep you engaged until it is time to go to bed at night?  Television doesn’t even offer as much relief as it did when we younger.  Just how many reruns of the day or night time drama or comedy programs can you really watch?  Unless of course, it is these reruns are you sleeping aids.

Do you remember that Fleetwood Mac’s song – don’t stop thinking about tomorrow, it’ll soon be here?  Well, that can be a good thought or a bad one depending up what you have planned for tomorrow.  The message was that it will better than tomorrow.

If this is a concern for you, then there is GREAT news ahead.  I know it was a huge concern for me and I saw it in action as I watch my sister and my brother lose hope and interest in life.  They both died in their 70s.   Why, what happened,  you might ask? And while my sister (78) died of cancer it was one of the most treatable types, my brother died for no apparent reason   He was seen at breakfast in the lodge and was said to be looking just fine, but missed lunch and someone found him later in his room, dead at 76.  Why did they die so young when our grandmother lived until she was 101, and our mother until she was 93?  My point is I believe neither had to die so young and yes today dying in your 70s is dying young.  But I think I have the answer to that question, too late for them but not for you or even me.

But the answer for that will come in another post along with some more rationale as to why – don’t stop thinking about tomorrow, it’ll soon be here  – is a good thing.  Tomorrow can be better!