It’s not how old you grow it’s how well you grow old.

We all age different and we all view aging differently. You aging process is just as you pictured it. Let’s hope you painted a bright sunny day, with lots of love, happiness and good health in yours. That old saying – your are what you think – your thoughts as you get older can you to the highest mountain or the lowest caverns.

happiness is what you make it

If you are continually concerned about what is going to happen and you think it is not going to be good, be careful some of those thoughts might have your mind thinking they are wishes. And your mind just might deliver the wish. Wishes do come true, so make sure you wish for what you really want and push what you don’t want out of your mind.

Aging is better when you chose to Age Consciously Take our free course Click To TweetI am reminded of a saying that actually makes me laugh.

If wishes and wants were beers and chips we could all have a great party. (courtesy of unknown)

I laugh mainly because I don’t like beer or chips, so wonder does that mean I need to stop wishing?

Nah, we all need to dream and wishes come from those dreams. Never forget this uplifting quote “if you can dream it, you can achieve it”

There is still much to be achieved, no matter what your age. Let’s all just keep dreaming of a happy and healthy future for ourselves and we just might be able to achieve it.

Never, ever give up, give in or give out.

Recall the byline for this site – Aging – let’s do it different. We can and will if our thoughts are focused on the good life brings.

If you having trouble with that you might want to check out part one of my Conscious Aging Course.


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Aging in Place is great! But where is the PLACE and at what cost?

I would guess that every one of us passed the age of 50 has at one time or another thought about what we will do when we get older. I don’t mean do in the context of what we do to stay busy, or what we will do to enjoy life. I mean what we will do about the cost of living where and how we want when we get older.

The vast majority of us would probably want to live right where we do now. We are comfortable in our own homes, and that is what the term “aging in place” was intended to convey. But what are the cost and issues around doing so?

So just how viable is the Aging In Place concept?

I am sure most of you have seen the newest bombardment of ads on TV these days that are aimed at helping us with both of these issues. Have been in the buying business (a.k.a. Supply Management) I am a firm believer in the mantra “Buyer Beware”, which really means, do your research before your buy and remember most of what is offered these days does not have a “buyer’s remorse” period of time attached. So…..

When you see these ads on Reverse Mortgages and Home Care Providers,

Remember that both require a closer look

Reverse Mortgages

Here is a little piece of an article found in Forbes by Carolyn Rosenblatt:

The ads make them look so great. Vacations, living a great lifestyle, happy couples, smiling at their good fortune. Rewards are repeated again and again.

Sincere movie stars of a certain age make the commercials believable. You can get cash now. It’s so easy. Just get your reverse mortgage and your problems will be solved. Pay off debt. Have fun.

What’s wrong with this picture?

A reverse mortgage is more debt and one of the most expensive forms of credit you can get.

There is a link below if you want to read the whole article, and maybe you should. It is important for us to educate ourselves as we get older. Remember the only person looking after us is US.

In essence, they sound so good when you see one of your “trusted” TV personalities promoting them, but in many cases, everything is not as it appears. DO YOUR HOMEWORK

Home Care Services

According to the government reports Aging at Home cost less not only for the family but the government themselves.

So here are some (not all) of the pro’s and con’s of home care

Home Care Pros

1. You can stay in your home.

2. Care is (usually) administered by a loved one or home-care professional.

3. It may be less costly than other options.

5.  If Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia should develop, familiar surroundings can produce feelings of calm and a sense of control.

Cons of Home Care

1. The people providing the care, if they are family members, probably have extensive responsibilities outside the home; as your dependency increases, their ability to care for you may become strained.

2. Home care by trained professionals can be costly. Home care pros often charge upwards of $30 per hour; if you should require around-the-clock assistance, the cost can quickly add up, decimating your savings and insurance.

3. Just as often as care is administered by loving family members, it may have to be provided by strangers with whose company you may or may not enjoy.

4. Your home may be not equipped to deal with changes in your mobility or any deterioration of your  physical abilities.

5. Living at home, even with in-home care, may if you are not prepared put you at risk in case of medical emergency.

Three things need to be considered before opting into either idea.

  1. Will the equity value in your home last as long as you do?
  2.  Do you and will you going forward have the financial resources to have in home care?
  3. Is your health such that it will allow for you to remain in your home over the long term?.

Remember should your health suddenly decline in the future you may have used the up financial resources required to take care of you, while you remained in our home.

If the answer to those questions is NO, then perhaps you need a different Place to age in.

Aging in place doesn’t have to be a house you own but does mean a place you are content with calling home.

I have written Three books on this topic that describe in more detail what is required to remain in your home as you age.  You can get both by clicking on the title or on the Get the Book button.

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Forbes article on Reverse Mortgage

THE BOTTOM LINE IS whenever you are making decisions about how to spend your retirement years, it’s important to weigh all these factors, along with financial concerns, family availability, and many others.

Don’t ask why, don’t ask what, ask HOW?

Problem Solved

Isn’t interesting that when we go to the doctor, we tend to ask only two questions – what is wrong with me and why did this happen. We then wait for them the tell us how they will get rid of the problem. And I don’t think this happens only at the doctors. Too many times we are keen to find out the why, and the what but fail to seek the answer to the how. Sure we asked how this happened, but the most import question we should always asking is -“How”!

How WE can help solve the problem ourselves.

In my recent book – Aging Safely at Home, not in A Home  I wrote about attitude and how it is so important to how we live our lives on our terms.

Your Attitude Is A Decisive Factor

I would like to start this chapter with a famous quote on the topic by Winston Churchill that speaks volumes about attitude in a single line:

~ “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” ~


Take that into consideration when you have the conversation with either your family or your physician about remaining in your home as you are getting old.

Let me share a little bit more on the topic of attitude. Whether we are aware of it or not, our attitude often determines how well we do in life. There are only three types of attitude: a positive attitude, a negative attitude, and a neutral attitude.

Essentially, what you think, what you do, and what you feel are what form your attitude.


If you want to know more click HERE to get the book.

That is why I encourage you to continue to ask How!

  • How can I stay healthy?
  • How can I maintain my independence?
  • How do I ensure I am making the right decisions?
  • The list goes on, but I am sure you get my point.


  • The list goes on, but I am sure you get my point.