Are the challenges of life affecting your zest for living?

Everyone faces Challenge in their life

 

Worrying about nothing? Give you head a shake

We all face challenges some more than others, it is how we deal with those challenges that affect our daily living.

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When we were young the challenges of growing up seemed devastating.  We would have a fight with a friend and our social life was ended!  We broke up with a boy or girlfriend and our life was over!  Or so we thought.

Getting older requires us to be a little more in tune to what events impact out lives.  Letting the little things constantly get you down may have them growing into huge mountains that can’t be climbed especially when as the saying goes we are already over the hill.

It is true that we often make mountains out of molehills and that is why it is important for us to see everyday challenges for what they really are.  Most are simply an inconvenience that disrupts our day and should be treated as such.  Worry and anxiety can lead to imaginary problems, these can lead to fears that negatively affect our zest for living.

Challenges can turn into real problems

If left unchecked some of those fears can turn into real problems.  To outsiders these are irrational and they start to become concerned about our ability to manage our lives.  Family members may view them as unfounded and unreasonable concerns that set off their alarm bells.  Those bells have others concerned for our safety and well-being.

I recall a friend whose husband traveled to the middle east for work and while the location didn’t worry her, being on her own did.  Every time he left she became fearful of driving even though when he was home she had no problem doing so.  Then she became fearful of being alone, although she was frequently alone when he was working at home.  Eventually, it took such a toll on him that he refused the overseas assignment, which had been financially lucrative.

On the flip side another acquaintance, who once loved to go out with friends and entertain, split from her partner and her view of life changed.  She became suspicious of people, felt her work colleagues had turned against and no longer accepted invitations or gave dinner parties.  When asked what was wrong and how they could supporter her she challenged their true intentions so often that they eventually gave up calling.

Both of these could be extreme circumstances and I am not educated enough in the matter to make any diagnosis.  My point here to remind us that we should examine our own life challenges to ensure we are not overreacting to the point at which we lose our zest for living. By doing so we are keeping ourselves on the path to Conscious Aging that leads to the road of living well, living happily and living long.

 

The Aging Process is Complimented by old and new Schools of Thought

Aging Hasn’t Changed

The aging process hasn’t really changed so much over the years it is our thought process that is making the difference.

Samuel Ullman wrote; nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.  Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm that wrinkles the soul.

We fear most what we can not see until it appears in the mirror - like aging Click To Tweet

Fear Not You Control the Process

While the aging process causes many great concern as Ullman shares it is not the physical appearance of aging that gets us down it is how we feel about the process.

We fear most what we can not see but most of us can see aging.  When it to the aging process we get down right scared because we can see the effects.  It is true that the effects of aging are visible, but what isn’t is how our fear causes us to age more rapidly.

 

Don't stress yourself

You can’t beat the process but you can slow it

You can’t stop the process but you can take steps to slow down the process.  Given that your skin tends to be the first sign of aging here are some of those steps you can take;

Reduce your stress

(including the stress you put on yourself related to aging)

Manage your weight

(extreme swings in weight cause your skin to stretch with weight gain and then appear more wrinkled with weight loss)

Remain active

(the older you get the less agile you become unless you keep the joints moving)

Stay hydrated

(sounds simple right? You would be surprised just how little pure clean water you consume when you actually keep track)

 Aging has its’ benefits

So the moral of the story is the options today for taking care of the wrinkles on the outside are meaningless if we continue to feel their effects on the inside. As you work to manage the external aging process take care to remain optimistic.  Maintain your enthusiasm for the benefits that come with age, of which there are many if you take the time to look for them

Conscious Aging and Mindfulness make great life partners

Mindfulness is the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something

Consciousness is the fact of awareness by the mind of itself and the world

As you can see mindfulness and consciousness are pretty close according to a Google search.  The only word missing is aging.  No matter what your current age, 50,60,70 and beyond, you are aging.  The only relevant part is how you are aging.

Aging when put less kindly is simply getting older. It may be the 3rd act but it is not the last act. Click To Tweet

Aging when put less kindly is simply getting old.  Some call this the third act but in reality, it is the only time you are no longer have to act or attempt to be someone or something you are not. You are not free truly to be yourself while acting although many actors claim they are only free when they are acting.  For most of us it the exact opposite.  Most of your life you have lived and acted as was expected of us.  Now it is time for you to celebrate your life’s journey and to use the wisdom gained from those experiences to your own benefit.

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There is a lot of fear and anxiety about growing older. The obvious changes in our environment, how much longer and healthier we are living has changed those fears.

It is those changes in perception that have brought us around to the four principles of mindful aging.

Inner Guidance

Your own inner guidance and wisdom bring hidden beliefs and assumptions into mindful awareness

Personal Wisdom

Your own inner, wisdom, beliefs and assumptions bring you into conscious awareness

Awareness

Self-awareness is the final key in your vision of aging that recognizes the vast potential of what life still has to offer

Inspiration

Inspiration can be found in many forms, place and things it is your role to find the type of inspiration that works for you in your journey to conscious and mindful aging.

Conscious Aging is intended to help you:

explore your unexamined, self-limiting beliefs and assumptions about aging and to help you learn more on how to age more consciously;

Develop the skills to cope more effectively with life stresses associated with aging;

Discover what has given you meaning in your life and how it can enrich your healthy aging process;

Identify the negative self-concepts that have kept you from more fully appreciating what you have accomplished in the world;

Realize and minimize any feelings of isolation and use them as encouragement to deepen your relationship with the world around you;

Learn to manage your fears and those of your loved ones in the presence of death through the transformative power of surrender and acceptance; and

create a personal roadmap for the aging journey and learn how to make each moment matter.

So the moral here is that these two life partners are both required in your life’s plans.

 

The first conscious aging is what makes you aware that changes will be needed as you get older.

 

The second, mindfulness is what keeps you focused on making the required changes.