Which bridge are you about to cross?

Some bridges create fear, but fear of what? No matter what your current age you will have bridges to cross. Just getting to the age you are now you will have crossed many already. The difference it seems to be as you get older some of the new bridges bring fear and some pain.   Some bridges can be scary. These can be overcome if you know you approaching them, they are more difficult when they just suddenly appear. Fear is something that grows within you.  Sure you may always have been afraid of the dark but, that fear doesn’t appear until it is dark. You are not afraid of it in the day time, you were not afraid of it yesterday in the bright sunlight. No, you became afraid when that sunlight turned to night. Many people that are afraid of the dark won’t have the same fear on a starlit night. The most common fear is fear of the unknown Click To Tweet and for some reason, that fear increases as you age. The most common Fear is of the unknown and for some reason, that fear increases as you age. So the question is what can you (more…)

Are you afraid of retirement? Maybe you should be,

because what are you going to do with possibly 25 or 30 years of nonworking life left to live.   How will you spend your days, evenings and weekend when every is a HOLIDAY? So what are you going to do? What will get you up in the morning? Click To Tweet   Life and living are not mutually exclusive, both require your interaction. Having that much time on your hands means there are no real holidays.  What are long weekends, who needs them?  Not you! Sure there will be important dates to look forward to, but unless you have a huge family, filled with relatives, your own kids, lots of grandkids or even great grandkids, you are pretty much on your own.  Yes there are provincial, state, and federal holidays observed as well religious holidays, but these no longer have the significance they had while you were working.  You were just happy to have the day off, the good news is that now you can appreciate them for their true meaning.  That being said even the 30+ holidays in some places are going to leave you with a lot of time to fill. Too much time, too little to do to fill it? So (more…)

The Conversation will occur, why not start it

Where do you want to spend your retirement? How do you want to spend your retirement? When we wait too long to tell our family what our plans are, often they are the ones doing the… Click To Tweet Whether you are 50, 60 and yes possibly even  70 and still working, the subject of retirement has probably come up. If you are already retired then the topic of what you are going to do as you get older will dominate.  Regardless of which it is this conversation is one that really needs to happen. But it is a  conversation that will go better if you are the one to start it. The best time of times happen when planned. When I wrote the book about helping aging parents I really wasn’t thinking of myself or my own need to have the conversation. I would guess that most of you also don’t believe that the conversation is needed at this moment. Well, I think we are both wrong. The conversation will be needed, and for my part, I would rather be the instigator than feeling I am be conspired against. I also think that the older we get the more (more…)